This is the eighteenth article in my
30 in 30 challenge, where I write about 30 things I’m thankful for in the 30
days leading up to my thirtieth birthday.
I have never
been able to understand the negative connotation of “in-law” because it just
doesn’t exist for me. As a matter of fact, that even extends past Doug’s
immediate family, too!
Maybe this
was the result of good planning on and Doug’s and my part. When we began
dating, we realized that we were a package deal and we knew that when we were
going to be married, that it would go beyond “husband and wife.”
It’s hard for
me to imagine not having a strong relationship with Doug’s family and I have
never once felt like I didn’t belong. They could have treated me as an “in-law,”
but instead I am just as important of part of their family as those who are
connected by their lineage.
My
mother-in-law is one of the kindest people on Earth and I look forward to
spending time with her. My favorite memory was the time we got snowed in at her
house. We drank wine, cooked meals together and watched a heck of a lot of TV.
Never once was there awkwardness – we just did what families do, we enjoyed the
togetherness! When I seek advice there are two people I call first, my mom and
my mother-in-law. I know that isn’t the norm, so I count my blessings that I
have such a strong bond and close relationship with my mother-in-law.
I have also
developed a special connection between each of Doug’s siblings and their
spouses and in my heart they are my siblings with no descriptor attached. We
share sarcasm, advice, humor, tears, playful banter, as well as meaningful
conversations! I cherish each one of them for what they bring to the family and
I so grateful that they have accepted me as their own!
Doug’s nieces
and nephews are also a big part of my life too. I have watched the oldest grow
into a beautiful young adult who can light up a room with her smile and turn
anyone’s bad day around with her wonderful laugh. I have seen her brother, my nephew;
become a confident and strong boy, who has a soft and tender heart, especially
for his momma. He’ll never admit that, but it gives me hope that when my boys
become his age they’ll still snuggle up one me the way he does with her! My
youngest niece, who happens to be my Goddaughter is only a few months older
than Cohen, so watching them grow and develop together has been so incredibly
special. I am so proud to be her Godmother!
If that wasn’t
enough, Doug’s extended family is also MY family, too! I cherish all of my “cousin-friends”,
especially the girls nights J. Every family gathering I have to go
down a buffet line of family members to hug, that will make a girl feel really
special!
The biggest
lesson I have learned is that family is not about who you are related to, but
the connections you have with people. I may not have been born into that
family, but I am very much a part of it. They give of themselves to lift me up
and I give of myself right back to them. They are such an important facet in my
life and I am so thankful for their love and friendship!
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